How Not to Get Your Ex Back

By Jenna James

How Not to Get Your Ex Back

Avoid these stupid yet tempting ways to get back with your ex.

Really want to get your ex back? Are you creative enough and willing to try anything as long as it's not too late to get your ex back?

If your current ambition is saving the relationship, I'm all for it... just please stay away from the desperate measures listed below. They seem stupid because they are and people still do them. Here's how not to get your ex back:

Paint protest signs

You might think that protesting made a difference in some of the world's most controversial issues, so why can't it work in your world? I mean just think about the intense topics that protesting has served in the past... war, abortion, taxes, capital punishment, animal cruelty.

If protesting can make in impact on these issues, why can't it help you get your ex back? All you need is some poster board, a permanent marker, and no life to pace back and forth in his or her front yard, right? Protesting can happen in other forms like refusing to work or boycotting events.

Pretend you didn't hear you broke up

He said what? She told you to take your things and go? When? Oh, you must not have been paying attention. It's perfectly fine to let yourself into your ex's apartment and spread out on the bed until he or she gets home from work. Just like normal, right? I mean, how can a break up be real if you weren't informed about it? Try something like this, and you can expect the cops arriving to lug you away, and the word "crazy" becoming synonymous with your name.

Call the mom

Maybe he's totally a momma's boy or maybe her mom is her best friend, so if you can get her on your side, there's no way your ex can get rid of you. You could offer to run some sort of errand or bring her a cup of coffee and claim that you were just "in the neighborhood." This may sound like a perfect solution to you, but it's truly just a super-bad idea and just plain won't work.

Do not also try the equivalent on Facebook by messaging their friends and begging. There's better ways to get back your ex using Facebook.

Change passwords

If there's a key to a shared storage area, an alarm code, or a password to get onto the computer, you can swipe keys, change passwords, or whatever else you have to do to make life difficult. Now you have something your ex needs. They'll have to take you back if he or she ever hopes to get onto that computer or into that storage space again.

As difficult as it may be, somehow your ex will figure a way around this, and if somewhere down the road your ex does take you back, he or she won't trust you with any personal information again - not the ideal healthy relationship.

Haunt your ex with subliminal messages

If you're in the same bar, you can request the song that played on your first date. You can subscribe to various magazines and give them your ex's address so they're constantly reminded of you every time they check the mail. You can recruit friends to sit near your ex in a cafe or restaurant and talk loudly about you and how well you're doing - a nice indirect way to make your ex regret their decision to break up with you. No, no, and no.

Regardless of how sly you are, all three will prove to be epic failures. If you show such intent to manipulate someone, you need the easy way to mend your broken heart. This also allows to come from a better place to get your ex back.

Bribe your ex back

You can play dirty if you want, but it's childish and unattractive.

Think of your ex's weakness then position yourself as the solution to this dilemma. If your ex is always short on cash and you know paying the full rent is going to be a struggle, let them know all he or she needs to do is take you back and then those hours and hours of overtime will be unnecessary. Does your ex have a pair of sneakers or a brand of cologne or perfume that the stores don't sell anymore? What if you just "happen" to drop that into your bag?

You can play dirty if you want, but it's childish and unattractive. Maybe they'll take you back, but you'll lose respect.

What should you do next?

If any of the above ideas are on your list of possible "get your ex back" techniques, scratch them off now. The chance any of these ideas will get your ex to take you back is miniscule at best. You're pushing him or her away with every crazy technique you try. You don't need to rack your brain trying to think of some creative way to get him or her back. You need the secrets, answers, and sure-fire ways that will get your ex to conclude on his or her own that he or she "needs" you back.

That's why I developed Bait Him Back and Bait Her Back - so recent break-upees get all the resources you need to get back into your ex's arms easily and discreetly. There's no reason you should look sad and desperate when you can be seen as sexy, seductive, and highly coveted by your ex.

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